Friday, May 6, 2011

My First Year with Guest Blogger Sophie Oak

Today at 4writers, we are delighted to have author Sophie Oak visit us. Sophie's newest Siren release Bound is now available.
Sophie, thanks for being with us today! I LOVED Bound. I stayed up all night reading it. Can't wait for the next book in the series!

Special Guest Star Sophie Oak

My First Year

It’s been almost a year since my first book came out, and I thought it was time to reflect on the things I’ve learned over the course of this year. I walked into the publishing business a bright eyed innocent and one year later, I’m not so sure how much of my innocence is left, but I know I still have a lot to learn. In honor of surviving this first year, I thought I would reflect on its lessons, both in and out of the industry.

  • Not everyone will love me. That was a hard one to take. Not everyone will love everything I write, and I can’t let that affect my blood pressure. The connection between a writer and a reader is a little like finding a soul mate. When it works—it’s the best thing in the world. When it doesn’t—well, that’s why I don’t look at Amazon reviews anymore.

  • Have a really good answer on hand when your twelve year old takes a gander at your new cover and wants to know a) why everyone is naked and b) why are there five football players and only one girl. All I could come up with was a) it was laundry day and b) they were down a player, and she was the only one around.

  • Facebook is my friend. Wow, I can really connect with readers on Facebook. I’ve gotten the whole social networking thing down. I tease on Fridays and announce when my books are available and I connect the whole thing through Twitter and my Amazon and GoodReads pages.

  • Facebook is my worst enemy. Wow, I can spend a lot of time on Facebook. And why do people think I run a farm?

  • Maybe my backyard pool isn’t the best place to skinny dip. I learned that the hard way, and that’s all I’ll say on that.

  • Fear and doubt kill my creativity, yet they stalk me all the times it seems. No matter how well my last book has done, I always think the next one will tank.

  • This business is just like any other. The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize that it has its own version of weeds.

  • You take a toddler to the potty, but you can’t make her use it.

  • Friends are like gold. I’ve managed to find some spectacular ones in the last year of my life. I’ve found plenty of people ready, willing and able to criticize me, but boy, have I found friends, too. I’ve made friends in the past year that I have no idea how I managed life without. They’re creative and funny and ridiculously loyal. Sharing this journey with friends has made it all the sweeter when it’s good and bearable when it’s bad. Cling to the people who love you. They’ll be around when the accolades are gone. They’ll buy the margaritas when someone thinks you’re the worst writer in the world.

I think what I’ve really learned is to remember why I got into this business in the first place. I love to tell stories. Beyond the money and the fans, (and don’t get me wrong, those are good reasons to be in this business) what I really love is creating worlds in my head. I get to live through my characters. In my forty years on earth, I’ve been a rancher, a woman on the run and the Queen of the Seelie Fae. I’ve run a BDSM club, been a famous artist and got elected to be the sheriff of the strangest town in the world. And I’ve gotten to share those experiences with people. I’ve been able to connect on a level I never would have imagined.

Yes, the business is rough. But I wouldn’t want to be anywhere else. What have I learned this year? I learned that I’m luckiest woman on earth. I can’t wait to see what I learn in year two.

Bound now available!
Sophie Oak writes erotic romance for Siren Publishing.
You can read the first chapters of all her books at


  1. Sophie, thank you for all the time and effort you put into your writing. I'm always eagerly awaiting the next installment of the Siren and Bliss books. Now I can add Faery to that list.

    Congrats on your upcoming one year anniversary! The first of many to come :D

  2. You've learned a ton--and all the right lessons (though I've nothing to say about the toddler and the potty). I feel lucky to call such a smart, funny writer a friend. And yes, if you're down, I'll buy margaritas. Hugs!

  3. Thank you so much, Sophie, for sharing! Great post and insight into the first published year! As I get older I've learned that the lesson on not everyone liking you becomes much easier to live with, because in my experience I've learned to love myself than that's what counts. I think you are amazing and I look forward to getting to know you better. Best of luck and I see great things in your future!

  4. LOL! Thanks for sharing, I have that same love/hate relationship with Facebook! Excuse me...someone just tagged me!